Love, Sex and Romance
Reasoning: July 15, 2003
by Yan, Rootsie and Christine
From: Yan
I suppose that feeling of destiny and being meant to do more is one that many can confuse with arrogance. It is a feeling that I am just beginning to come to terms with and am trying to allow it to direct me in the right way so it does not actually become arrogance.
'turning the page on the past' as you said is a difficult process for me... there is the element of fear and also the element of wondering whether your mind is leading you right. But all we can do is to trust ourselves and make informed decisions about the direction our lives will take.
As for my feelings on the misconceptions of love, I guess all little girls are always encouraged to look for love in the image of patriarchal fairy tales, in visions of romance. These little girls then grow up and wonder why these ' loves' are somehow always short-lived or are not as fulfilling as they thought they would be. We search for fulfillment in the relationship or the 'union' with another person without realizing that that feeling of union can only come within ourselves... in depending on someone else to make us feel whole we are like the blind leading the blind...that to me is not the true essence of love. It is just a crutch, a placebo, a poor substitute.
what are your feelings on the ideal union of male and female? Is there any such thing?
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From: Rootsie
Yes sister the true union is with our Divine Selves!
Well I too lived for years under the illusion of that romantic fantasy. When it finally shattered, what an eye-opener, though accompanied by pain too, like the loss of my dearest oldest friend, that dream of a man who would complete me, save me, WHATEVER. I had to see how my privilege feeds into this, which was a nasty moment of truth.
Yes Divine Union between man and woman is possible, but not according to any of the terms males and females try to impose upon it, for ultimately the sacred marriage is between your self and the Divine Essence, within you and within another. What an amazing thing, experiencing this One Love, realizing that love for one is love for All, that there is only increase, and never diminishment.
We come to each other in our fears, feeling a lack in ourselves, and then it's not love, but the wounded meeting the wounded.
On destiny:
Frankly I have met few females who suffer from 'delusions of grandeur'. To the contrary, our confidence tends to be shot, and trusting ourselves is the hardest thing. So don't worry about being arrogant. The far greater worry is that we view ourselves as LESSER rather than GREATER. Being as BIG as we truly are can be the scariest thing!
Your post shows the marks of a person truly thinking, truly growing in awareness and truth. Truth. Conduct. Integrity. Choosing the greater over the lesser.
Now just be kind to yourself. This most of all. We sell ourselves down the river for the 'love' of a male. We betray our true selves this way. We choose slavery over freedom. It is far better to be 'alone' than accept anything less than love from a true man who always gives his best, receives the best of you, and expects nothing less.
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The Illusion of Love, Sex and Romance
From: Christine
I thought I knew what a real man was until I met him, the only one
I thought I knew what ROMANCE was until his spirit courted mine
I thought I knew what LOVE was until he showed me how to love myself
I thought I knew what SEX was until I learned from him the true functions of my physical being was to serve a higher purpose
Then my illusion of LOVE SEX AND ROMANCE was shattered when my EYE saw the purpose of all that he showed was not ONLY about me
Then I knew it was about the love for humanity
Everyone gets all and the best of his love,
for no one is more privileged than the other.
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