Trust

Reasoning: May 21, 2003
by IanI, Ayinde, WarriorPrincess

From: IanI

Irie, Irie,

Trust, eh?
Is quite a thing to give you trust to someone. And it should never be done senselessly... foolishly. Many persons, in them imaturity, fling their trust to anyone and everyone they meet. Giving up all of themselves immediately, never realizing what can be done with all that information by ones that have wickedness as them guide!

There is plenty in this world that want to USE you, RAPE you, exploit you...
seen?
So don't never trust no one just from them words, or from them smiley face, cause words and surface appearance can be sugar coated and alluring... it all sound so good and nice-nice, but the intention is quite different. And some people have become very good at this... and make it very difficult for those of sincerity to be trusted! And make some innocent people be too paranoid. You see? So words can mean absolutely nothing... is behaviour, action, deeds, conduct that build trust.

Yes Ras, communication is an important part... but there be many ways in which to communicate... not just words, right? Make me show you... I have dog. Dog can't talk... in words... but that dog communicate with me all the while. And I have come to trust the animal... by him behaviour, not him words... cause he don't have no 'words'! But he show me every day that I can trust him not to run out into the road, you see? And him show me that I cannot leave food upon the table and walk away cause him gonna jump up there when him see me not lookin and RUN way with that food! So the dog know I... and I know the dog. Good communication go on. I pay attention to his behaviour and he pays attention to mine!

To simply trust someone that you do not know is foolish. So do not ever give up too much of yourself to a stranger.
Be patient.
Pay attention.
Even here pon this machine ones can see the behaviour of others, not just through them words... but how and when and if them react to reasonings.
So... pay close attention before you give you trust!

And then... ones must learn to trust them own 'instincts'... and how to percieve them instincts. That is a MUST!

Give thanks!
Irie Ites!
ONE LOVE/HEART/MIND
IanI Rastafari
Guidance and protection

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From: Ayinde

Sometimes I wish I could jump through the Internet to warn certain people about carelessly trusting others. Sometimes they are unto something good but they get caught up in emotional sentiments and them get blind.

They stop discerning and soon they get gobbled into a cesspool of half-truths and fantasy. I see them have to go through whole cycles to learn all over again.

Trust not your emotions on its own because emotions gives quick reaction for short-term comforts but one can be trapped in something unhealthy for the long run.

Yes, trust is an important thing, I would say it is sacred, but it takes time to cultivate and people must allow for this time.

There is history and one can check history for patterns of behaviour. They cannot act on this but they should use it as a guide. Because people send powerful messages through their personal history and one must discern it.

Trust based on emotional sentiments is the most dangerous thing because one becomes blind to the intent of others. One gets carried away by the romance and is engulfed in foolishness.

It is better to start off not trusting people and still respect them while giving yourself time to evaluate and access.

This is important because to surrender one's discerning ability is very dangerous if it is done to others who have 'questionable' character.

It is for this reason I wait and observe and wait and test the waters before I say much because although truth and honesty are good in the hands of people who are searching for it, it usually becomes a weapon in the hands of hypocrites and those playing for attention.

Be warned.

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From: WarriorPrincess

yes))))))) every single word....

I will attest to being one of the foolish ones..

I can remember since being a little girl wanting to trust EVERY one...that no matter what they say...was taken as such...and dare I say...at face value?! I always felt that it was a good thing to give people every benefit of the doubt..straight up...BEFORE I even discerned...(hmmm...yes)))))
I SO wanted to believe in the goodness of people...
(*I still do* ssshhhhhh)

ahhh...naivite full blown in all its glory...smile

Yu'd think by now I'd get it...I mean ...the stories...the examples...on and on...there they are...in my face...in my heart...deep cut wounds to remind me...why not to offer such precious trust so willingly...

I have indeed gotten much better...but it is still a matter that can slip right on in and sweep me off my gaurd in a veritable sea of emotional tidal waves if I allow myself to yield to my emotions...cause I FEEL intensely about people and like looking at all sides of every situation.

Clearly I am no dummy...yet stupid things do I get miself tangled up in (unnecessarily) if caught in unawares...

and so it is..that messages like this...hit me to da core...and help me to see....smile))))))

when I was a new bud teen...and really starting to dip and dabble and explore...my mother caught me in one such devious dip...she confronted me, yelled at me, lectured me, and hailed me out and up and all over the place.."DID YOU DO IT??!!..just tell me the TRUTH...it is in your BEST INTEREST to TELL ME the truth!...and proceed to win me over with her CONvincing whiley way...hmmmmm..should I?...let me take a chance and see...YES...I DID IT!...~KABLAM~!! smacked me so hard right across the face...I think if you still look at my cheek you can still see a faint mark of her hand...hahaa...my mother taught me alot about "trust" that day.

so you'd think I'd be very cautious about people right?... well...in alot of ways I am...and am protective and gaurded of myself to a much greater degree...but if you disarm me with my OWN emotions...than I am vulnerable...and open to attack..blinded by what's coming right at my face...like my mothers swift striking hand...she played my emotions and got me to "feel" for her...and so I gave it to her..served it to her right on a silver platter as a matter of fact...

and SO...Iya see...Iya see...more and more and more...I need not always get slapped in the face to learn such lessons ...there ARE more suitable means fe learning...smile...thanks BE!.. like yes >>>cultivating...patience...taking the time to see and KNOW and GROW..>>>BEFORE>>>> one offers the sacred offering of TRUST...

fe these are the precious things that must be earned )))))))

....along with so many others)))))))

love



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